We all have a certain amount of drama in our lives. Some now and then, others on a daily basis. How do you handle the drama in your life?

                                             The Occasional Drama

I define this as every so often. This is the manageable kind. It comes on for a short period and then goes away. Solutions are found quicker and people work together more to eliminate the issues. I like to say these usually involve friends or acquaintances, where your emotional involvement is somewhat limited. Many of these dramas don’t affect your bottom line of living. That being said, we all have different relationships with people. Issues with friends could cause you more grief than with your family. We will get to the family drama soon, and I know from experience, it can go on forever and ever!

If I had to pick a classification, this would be the one I would prefer to go with. The energy level is less consuming and when it involves friends or non-family, you can escape it for a time. It doesn’t make the drama less emotional, but it can be dealt with on a more relaxed front. Basically,I will deal with it when I have to be around you and not before.

                                                         Daily Drama

This is the drama that usually involves immediate family and all relatives of importance in your life. My drama is exactly this type and has been for quite a few months. I created a great deal of it myself unfortunately, but when we see things in our life need to change, well we don’t have much of a choice. It is a daily ordeal, because this is going to involve a divorce and major change of lifestyle for everyone involved. Everyone’s feelings are taken into consideration but “OH THE DRAMA”!  This is the kind too where it just starts sucking the life out of you. I am feeling that now. The anticipation of what is down the road makes it worse. When it involves so many people’s lives, it is a never-ending experience until the end.

I have decided to just keep rolling with it at this time because dealing with some of the people directly involved is starting to wear thin on my nerves. Keeping the daily drama at a minimum is important to one’s sanity and everyday functionality. Being in counseling is also a great way to deal with it. You know you have someone who will listen to all your rants and whining and not argue back. A very important element indeed!  My feeling overall is that the sooner I can get things taken care of, this drama will go away.

                                                  Pick and Choose Wisely

When I say this all I mean is be deliberate about how you want certain episodes to play out and affect your life. We do have some control, and should exercise that in these situations. How much of your time do you want it to take up?  What about the emotional investment? Ask yourself these questions before you go ahead. I would not change my direction, but maybe how I started out handling it may have been different. Drama will exist in your life one way or the other. How you deal with it is the key to survival!