Let me first say that this is about smooth talking men. Gentlemen, I am very aware that there are women out there who fill the same bill. They will get equal billing down the road. However, let’s focus on the smooth talking man for this post.

                                       The Smooth Talker in Person

For those of us old enough to remember how we used to meet men in the old days, in person and up close and personal was the proven method. Barhopping created a competition of smooth talking men which would go beyond one’s imagination. The qualities were right there in your face! You knew who you were engaging with in conversation. Body language won out, and so did smooth talking. Words are always important, especially when you want to impress a person from the beginning.

Take a guy who knows how to impress a woman with his extended vocabulary and you got a smooth talker. He looks into your eyes, compliments your very existence in his present space and there you go. You are hooked. He will buy you drinks all night and then suggest you both move it elsewhere. By that time you were already planning your wedding and furniture to fill that colonial you were going to live in.

Fortunately, women today are a little more alert and are of a different breed. Even us oldies know the game from so much experience of having played it in person. Things have drastically changed today though due to online dating sites and social media. The smooth talking men sometimes have a false face.

                                  Smooth Talking in Social Media

Since I began this blog, I have gotten an education on all levels of social media. Between Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, people looking to hook up has increased to tremendous levels. Enter the male players of our world or smooth talking men. I am active on all three sites, and have been affected by said men. Being who I am , I’ve never had an issue with engaging in conversation to get to know someone. Yes, it is more difficult online since you can’t see them, but the words definitely become more significant.

I recently had an encounter with a really talented smooth talker. He got my interest in the beginning because he knew really well how to play the game. He was from the United Kingdom. And just to clarify, these kind of men come from all over, even the good USA. He had that sexy dialect and well what can I say. The attraction so I thought was real and genuine. This is where the words make a powerful impact when you can’t see the person in front of you. He said all the right things an older woman wants to hear. Oh and yes he was a younger man. So who wouldn’t feel good. This flirting and online interaction went on for several months. It ended because, not to my surprise, it was too good to be true. He wanted to use me for something, and I declined and of course all those sweet nothings actually meant nothing!

To be fair to the men out there, yes women are really good at this game too. Many have been duped by smooth talking women. Understanding the effects social media has contributed to the rise of these occurrences needs to be stressed. So it really is important that we all pay attention to who we talk too. Don’t always confuse this person with scammers. I’ve talked to some scammers and yes some can have these qualities where others are just complete idiots. And not all of them want your money.

Just remember as I do all the time. There are real men out here with the creeps. Sometimes you just need to do due diligence to tell them apart. Enjoy Twitter, Instagram and Facebook. But be aware that bad people do exist, and yes they troll the internet for nice people. Always be one up on the player of the game!