When relationships end, you have some people who can accept the reality, and those who insist on denial.
Reality
The hardest thing for someone to do is to move on from a pairing that has been their life for what seems forever. However, the reality is hard to accept, but must be done. It takes time to see that there is a future in front of you. Feelings don’t change overnight for either person. Emotions run high during these times, and all feelings must be taken into account. One person still cares, but not in the way the other one wants them too. When something just isn’t working anymore, you have to just deal with it and go on.
Everyone has gone through this at least once in their life, maybe more. No one ever said love and relationships with people were ever going to be easy to figure out. The fact remains though is that we all have things in our future to look forward too. We just may not be aware of them yet. The reality of any kind of ending relationship is that, both people need to be into it. If not, than it can’t go on, for both of their sake’s.
Denial of the Ending
Many relationships that end after many years especially, are difficult to deal with, for both involved. Even the person initiating the split, has years invested. However, they realize that you can’t have only one happy person involved in it. Sometimes it is just time to say maybe this just isn’t working anymore.
The person in denial is usually the other party, who just doesn’t understand why it has to be like this. Of course that person doesn’t want to see the end coming. Their future is hanging in the balance, and for now, they don’t see this as the solution. Denying that it won’t happen, will cause more damage than not. Steps need to be taken by all involved to make the transition as painless as possible. Amicability is a start, but when you already have two people seeing the situation differently, that in itself can be hard to do. Compassion and understanding on both sides can help, but easier said than done.
When Co-Existing is Involved
This living situation no doubt, makes reality and denial a sticky area. Trying to live with someone who knows the end is coming feels cruel, but when circumstances call for the situation, you just have to do it.
Trying to keep it real is challenging, since you still interact . Keeping the environment from becoming to toxic is not easy. The goal is to make sure respect for the other person is not lost. The initiator needs to remind themselves how sensitive the situation is with this element involved. Minimal interaction is usually the key, but that can be all but impossible to do at times. So how do you handle it? The best way you can under these kind of conditions. No one said breaking up is easy, but having mutual respect for one another at such a hard time is maybe the one thing to keep it the reality.
When Reality Finally Sets In
Reality has a way of not being kind. What it does do is make one see the next steps to be taken to have some normalcy restored to their life. Denying the inevitable is only delaying future growth or happiness. We have all experienced these feelings. Some more than we bargained for in our life. Life does not end with the reality of what’s ahead. It may create a better environment in which to thrive!