There are many grandmothers where I work. I am not one of them yet. The Grandmothers Club, as I call it, apparently is very exclusive. Let me explain.

                                                Grandmothers Pictures

There are several women I work with who are forever showing every new thing that their grandchild does. Well, I can surely appreciate that, since I would proudly do the same thing. My beef, as it were, is that they always walk past me. It’s as if I would just not understand what it’s like to have pictures of grandchildren and view them with pleasure like anyone else. This is the time where I have to snicker, because really, you won’t share them with me, but you will the single women who work with us simply because they are your friends!  If you won’t share them with me, then stop asking me when I will become a grandmother.

                                                Grandmothers Attitudes

Becoming a grandmother is most definitely a right of passage. It comes with that second part of your life  where your children have become independent of you and capable of having and raising their own offspring. In past posts, I’ve written how my children had dreams and goals set before wanting to start having children. Both are well-educated, successful professionals, who, when they are ready, will begin their families. It’s not my clock ticking anymore. It’s theirs. When women who are grandmothers have asked me when my kids will begin having kids, I blandly look at them and say, not my call. If I was a total bitch, I would blandly look at them and say, none of my business or yours. There is nothing wrong with the proud attitude of being a Grandmom!  I will know that soon enough.

                                          Maybe They’re Avoiding My Pain

To be honest, I’m having no pains yet about not being a grandmother. Having no control over the situation, why sit and be depressed or upset over it. My thought was perhaps these women are not wanting to upset me, so they are avoiding showing me their little people. Why?  Believe it or not, I am an adult, and able to separate fantasy from reality. When my grandchildren arrive, I would want to show everyone!  But now would I, since I’m not even able to relish in these grandmothers joy also.

                                            Future Grandmothers Relent

I have decided to not take the behavior of a few as a statement of all grandmothers out there. My friends on Facebook are wonderful at sharing their pictures of the grandchildren, and I enjoy every chance I get to look at them. They know that all of us are not in the group yet, but they do not treat us as outcasts because of it. If anything they make us look forward to the experience and when it happens. They also make us feel comfortable with knowing that we can put as many photos out there and no one will give a crap, because we will be grandmothers, in the future!