Love recaptured is an interesting phrase. There are times in relationships when you may lose that certain feeling you once had for that special person. Sometimes the goal is to work on getting those emotions back. Other times it could be a sign just to move on.
Was It Really Being in Love
We all know that love takes many forms. Most of us will also agree that being in love is much different from just loving somebody. I can say to my friends at work in jest “Love you guys”, where I want to share with a significant other that I’m in love with them. Yes, there is a major distinction between the two.
When we meet someone, and get those strange feelings that you don’t get with just being around anyone, you start to analyze. Your heart rate goes up, you feel tingly, well maybe you do. The feeling is not your everyday running into a friend feeling. Eventually, over time those feelings grow stronger and you know, yes I am in love with this person. But what happens when those feelings start eroding away through the years. Were you really feeling it? Or did you think you were. Many people start out that way. Things occur which little by little, make the intensity of those feelings disappear.
How Do You Tell The Difference
Many relationships start out as friendships, where you may genuinely just care for that person, and not be “in love”. As with many things over time, feelings can change and grow stronger. What started out as a caring friendship of concern, can evolve into something romantically intense.
The question is now, am I just loving this person more, or am I really in love with them. Chances are you will know the answer. How do you feel when you are away from that person? Does your heart skip that beat when they come into the room or home from work? Do you think about them periodically throughout your day that sometimes you lose focus of other tasks? That my friend is being in love with someone. It cannot be mistaken for anything else.
Losing That Feeling
As falling in love with someone may develop over time, so can falling out of it with someone. When you are with someone, there are no time tables set for how long a relationship will last. If both people don’t work at it with the same intensity, many times it will fail. Long and loving unions don’t just happen. Couples can be together for years, and certain things might be keeping them together, which have nothing to do with love. Those are the relationships where maybe it wasn’t really being in love. But then it could have started out that way, and things occur which change the entire dynamic altogether. For whatever reason, one or both people, may just not be feeling it anymore.
Recapturing Love
So is it possible to fall back in love with someone? Of course it is. If it’s meant to be. Some relationships just aren’t meant to last. Others, may find their way back to how it all began. One person can’t make another fall back in love with them. For the one who fell out of love, they know why it happened. In reality the other person will eventually find out why too. Can it be fixed? How deep does the hurt go? How long did it take to get to that point where the person realized, I’m just not feeling it. The human psyche is an interesting thing. Many of us go through our daily lives just not understanding why we feel certain emotions. Stopping and looking inside personal relationships will almost always give you the answer.
Recapturing the feelings you once may have had for someone is not a scientific experiment, to be conducted by anyone but the people directly involved. Things take time. People need to understand that falling for someone is not planned. It just happens. And whether connections can be re-established once again, well who knows. Only time and those who fell out of it will tell!