Emotional relationships versus physical relationships. Isn’t this what all encounters eventually come down to. Who makes the better companion? Someone you become emotionally involved with first, or that guy who just wants to break the ice immediately, by getting into your pants?

                                                  Let’s Get Physical

Physical attraction is of course what gets it all started. However, at some point emotions need to take over. But let’s talk physical, shall we. Men do think with the other head, more than the one on top of their shoulders. See it, gotta have it, then gotta get it. Many great relationships started this way and ended up as permanent pairings. How substantial they are is another story.

The physical part of any relationship pales to the emotions that people share when becoming involved with one another. Having someone look at you straight in the eyes, has a lot more meaning than them staring at your chest the entire time. Men as a general breed are yes, cave-like. They treat you as if they will always save the day, then expect to be rewarded for it. Yes of course, with sex. I’ve heard stories of couples who would fight like cats and dogs, just to end up not talking to straighten it out, but end up having sex as the end all.

Where does that solve the obvious issues down the road? And believe me, if you can’t talk things out, you will have problems eventually. Physical parts of relationships only last for so long. What happens when that capacity of your life just isn’t a functioning part of a couple’s relationship anymore?  When you can’t solve it in the bedroom, then what do you do?

                                                   Emotions Rule the Day

Most grounded couples will tell you that their bond is based more on the emotional tie, than the sexual one. Being able to talk things out, communicate and support one another, is what makes most relationships with substance, stand the test of time. I’m not talking about our parents, whose marriages may have lasted for years, but may have also been void of any real connection emotionally.

There are men who may have not seen what it was like to be open and supportive of a spouse growing up with parents who did not show those qualities. Well, has anyone ever heard of breaking the mold, or trying to be different?  I get tired of hearing that excuse from men all the time. Just because you grew up in that kind of environment, doesn’t mean you have to end up that way. When you choose that partner, you are hoping that they will know what else goes into making a great relationship in total.

I’ve noticed just from personal observations through the years that the more couples are emotionally in touch with one another, the men especially become more involved, less self-centered and respect their partner and the relationship they have.

In my opinion it’s pretty cut and dry. An emotional connection is essential to a long and contented commitment between two people. It has to start from the beginning. You can’t go years and think that you can just make it happen after things start to head south. Happy and satisfying marriages and any relationships depend on both people making the effort to be there all the time, no matter what , for the other person. You can only work on it, when it has been there all along.