Please tell me what 62-year-old woman doesn’t want to hear  compliments. None, that’s who. However, remember to put it in perspective. Take it for what it is!

                                         Women to Women Compliments

Let’s start with when a woman complements another woman. I take it at face value. Nothing more and nothing less. Most women, especially ones you know, will give a genuine praise, when it’s warranted. Women are notorious for giving what I call the “backward hand slap” compliment. What is that?  These usually come from those women who rarely talk to you, unless they are curious about what is happening in your life. The complement will go something like this. “I see you’ve lost some weight around your butt. It was getting kind of wide there wasn’t it.”  This is a true quote, because I received it a while back from a coworker.

I don’t care about compliments from other women. Compliments in general are thrown around like confetti on New Year’s Eve. Being a woman, I can tell you many have agendas anyway.

                           Responding to a Compliment With a Compliment

So my personal theory is this. Many women who dish out compliments, want one in return, immediately. I don’t fall for that bait anymore. If someone says something nice to me, I say thank you and move on down the road. I will complement another woman when I think she deserves to be complimented. If her hair looks exceptionally nice, or if she is wearing an outfit that I really admire, I will say something. But if you say you like my hair, or whatever, unless I  see something I want to comment on, don’t expect any reciprocation. Not being nasty, just real. if the feeling isn’t there, you won’t have one coming back at ya!

                                      Men Complimenting Women

Now comes the meat of the matter. We all know that a man will do that “confetti compliment.” Most men, especially those wanting to meet a woman, will just throw them at you, all over the place. Some of us understand the process, and just go with it. Being 62, I have heard my share of them throughout the years, in order for a guy to get into my pants. Okay, it may have worked a few times, especially before I got married, but these days, take heed women.

There are many of us out there who find a compliment now and then refreshing, especially from another man. Speaking from the married woman perspective, those compliments can get out of hand, and perhaps make one start thinking. Why doesn’t my husband see what these guys see, even if it is just looking at the outside? I have a husband who is not one to give me compliments. This goes back since the beginning of our relationship. I will not lie! It has always been an issue with me. Even when I thought I looked pretty damn hot for some special occasion we were attending, not a word was said. So why is this a big deal?

                                          Husband’s Complimenting Their Wives

Truth be told, this has been such a sticking point with me since our beginnings. My argument has been, you liked what you saw, you wanted to be with me forever, so what happened throughout the years? If any woman wants a compliment from a man, that man is her husband! Sure, let’s be honest again here. Some women have not maintained the standard by which they got that man. These are the ones, who just let themselves go! Another truth be told. I am not one of them. I don’t expect to hear all the positives when just downing a pair of jeans and a tee. But when I get dressed up for my children’s weddings, and get compliments from everyone but my man, I take great issue with that. Over 34 years, he has yet to get it.

So is there a connection between women, married and unmarried, frequenting sites where men are plentiful, and compliments are awaiting you at every turn? I believe there is. I have experienced this recently on Instagram, and blogged about it a while back. But be warned ladies. There are some real smooth talkers out there!

 

                                                        A Word to the Wise

Just remember, before going out to certain social media sites, if you get a compliment, and yes, it will make you feel fine, put it in perspective. Strange men throwing out “confetti compliments”, to women they don’t even know. I am still on Instagram. I have made some friendships with guys, with the understanding that I am married and friends only it will be. The ones who come back to you to talk are the real men out there. Compliments aside, “menships” as I like to call them, can put many things into perspective. Getting inside a man’s head, can maybe make you understand what is inside your man’s head. Just don’t let it get to yours!