Let’s face it, between Mother’s Day and Father’s Day, who gets the most attention from the public and from advertisers. No contest. This blog is dedicated to all those dads out there, who do their share.
Fathers Are Really Special
There is no doubt the importance of a woman in a child’s upbringing. Let’s not under rate how much children need a father around to cement that overall security. Dad’s bring something different to the table. They can bring a subdued emotion and a more rationalized view of situations. Speaking from a mother’s point of view, I know I let my emotions get in the way a lot. My husband balances that out.
Growing up I saw that at home. It’s not saying that men have or show no emotions. They tend from my experience to keep them in check. When my mother would go off about something, my father tended to sit back and evaluate, instead of reacting immediately. Of course, we have the other end of that spectrum.
Fathers and Discipline
There are dads who just know how to handle a bad behaving child. Then you have those who, well let’s say, shy away from it. Not all men want to show brute force when it comes to kids. You also have those who just let it all go. Many moms have made dad out to be the monster. “Wait until your father gets home!” has been a universal term, thrown around for ions. I tried not to do that to my husband. Besides, delaying disciplining loses its point quickly. Let dad reinforce the point after he gets home, not be the main issuer of it, especially when he wasn’t even there to witness it.
Special Experiences with a Dad
I shared special experiences with my dad, that I couldn’t have with my mom. My dad took me to baseball games, and yes the racetrack. Gambling didn’t become part of my repertoire, but just sharing what my father enjoyed was plain fun. Not what Dr. Phil would approve of, but so what. It was time spent with my dad, and memories I will have forever. He also got me hooked on steak hoagies back then too. Always the pit stop after the ball games.
My dad tried to show me how to play the piano. He was self-taught on both the violin and piano. My mom couldn’t play one instrument. He could just sit there and go at it. These are the good memories that will always outweigh the negative ones.
Fathers and Children Without Mom
In the year 2017, the definition of father has changed for many. We now see many dads raising children alone, whether they be divorced, widowed or just single. Men are more than capable of being able to have kids and fulfill their emotional needs, without a female around. Suffice it to say, some are even better parents than some women might be.
We are all nurtured by a female figure in our life at one point or another. Many fathers
can do the same thing a mom does, with help from a society, who sees the importance of having a man around. Sure, there are stories out there of great men being raised by women only. This doesn’t downplay that. But let’s remember, that the DNA is from both, male and female. It will always benefit a child, in my opinion, to have both in their lives. Fathers will always have that something extra to relate too, that a mom just won’t.