Having children, to many experts out there, doesn’t necessarily qualify one in raising children. I would tend to agree. However, I am not a child psychologist nor do I pretend to be one.

This is the first of several blogs I will share on raising children. So what makes me an expert? I believe that I raised, (with my husband’s help of course), two well-adjusted, happy and productive kids, into two happy, well-adjusted and productive adults. They are good people and that is something to talk about. Parenting has its challenges, especially today, but sticking to what worked for some of us back in the day, might hold some merit.

                                                  Let Them Explore

There is no doubt that we all want to protect our children from the moment they appear. Part of raising children is that you can’t keep them in a bubble and expect them to experience life in all its glory. Playtime, especially for small children is also exploring time. It’s the time to learn what is good for them and what is not so good for them.

Whether it be outside or inside, we are there to monitor their activities, not stifle them. Inside for instance, they need to know that certain objects are not for touching. This is why we have outlet covers and hooks on cabinets. Most of the responsibility comes back to us anyway. We need to be more attentive and realize just how fast things can happen. At the same time being consistent in telling them what is right and wrong, will hopefully mean something sooner than later.

Outside presents itself with a different kind of challenge. There is so much to see and touch, and learn about nature, good and bad. Once again, you can’t leave a young child alone, even if you have a gated or fenced yard. Children are like animals. Where there’s a will, there’s a way, to get out. Make them aware from the get go that the street is off-limits, whether it be a busy one or even a court.

Walk with them as they explore their surroundings. Be mindful of what they reach out for and want to touch. Common sense prevails here folks. Chasing butterflies and squirrels is just not a dog thing. Stay with your child and pay attention. Since small ones pick up everything to put into their mouths, you need to be pretty alert. It’s all about letting them go, but keep monitoring what they get into.

                                                           Kids Get Dirty

What child doesn’t get messed up eating certain foods or playing outside?  I’ve known some mothers out there who were just fanatics about keeping their kids clean, all the time. Some adults can’t stay neat, so how do you expect children to.

Part of being a kid is getting dirty. That’s what they do. And if you know that, then don’t dress them as if everyday is a church day. My two were always dirty, especially when outside. Playing in a sandbox and climbing trees will do that to someone. How do you make mud pies and not get filthy?  The answer is you can’t, so just let them be kids. Washing machines and dryers make it a moot point. Children attract filth and that is just a fact. Let it be part of the childhood experience. Soap and water work wonders too!

I appreciate the moms of today who want their child to be the next rocket scientist or maybe the one who will find a cure for a  disease. Let them begin that journey with a little exploration and play.