I will be 62 years old this year. Old enough to collect Social Security. Retirement is around the corner when I am able to do it. Been around the block a few times, as the saying goes. So why is it that certain members of my family feel the need to tell me what is best for me, now, at this stage?
The love for my family is beyond what words can express. I’m sure the feelings are mutual. Please explain to me though, the need to guide me out of the box that I feel comfortable in for now. I am fine with things the way they are at the moment. What I have an issue with is being told, in not so many words, that my life is boring and dull. Guess what, it’s my life!
Continuity and familiarity are what make me secure. I’m a routine kind of person. Occasionally I put at least one foot out of the proverbial box. The point being, I will decide when my foot comes out, not anyone else. And please, with all due respect, don’t tell me where I will have a good time to go on a vacation. I have some ideas of my likes and dislikes for what is a fun time for me.
Traveling the world is not my thing. I will never begrudge anyone of their love to do what makes them happy. However, I am beginning to resent those who just can’t respect who I am and take it at that! My priorities were everyone else but me at one time. I look out for my best interests these days. And my husband’s when he lets me. He supports who I am, and has never tried to change me. My quirks to him have always been part of my charm. He won’t force an issue when he sees that maybe it’s not for us. Our situation is not like everyone else. We’re not well off, and we both still need to work. This in itself makes our choices limited, but still enjoyable from our point of view. That’s the view that matters.
In retrospect, I could have made some other decisions in my life, which would have taken me in another direction. However, I will never regret where I am now. I will not apologize for my simple and non-dramatic lifestyle. I truly appreciate that you are trying to help me enrich my life. Just please, let me be me, and know that maybe down the road, I might consider the other options that are thrown my way.